Happy New Year!!
What does this have to do with keeping your resolutions? I’m glad you asked!
This past week social media had been flooded with everyone’s resolutions and ways to reach your goals. I’m sure you’ve noticed too. (Don’t miss my post on goal setting) In reading so many of your resolutions it reminded me a of a strategy, based on research, that will help you actually make those resolutions stick.
In the field of mindfulness and psychology there’s an amazing concept called URGE SURFING, while it is typically used in treating addictions, it can be applied in SO many areas of our everyday lives, mine included.
The notion behind urge surfing is just like it sounds. When you get an urge to do something, (which is usually what results in not meeting our resolutions), you surf that urge, you ride it out.
Let’s break it down a little more.
This is the part to pay attention to! It is the feeling you are experiencing that you must identify but more importantly understand.
So what now?
Now you start to recognize the feeling and as a result of just recognizing it, the urge to engage in the behavior starts to reduce.
You could also step out of the kitchen just for a minute or so. Feelings typically don’t last much longer than 60-90 seconds, although that is not to say there isn’t another feeling behind it (sort of like a wave).
You can also take a few deep breaths. Did you notice you are about to engage in a behavior that is not healthy for you?
As you see, urge surfing can apply to behaviors such as; making poor choices around food, alcohol or other addictive behaviors. It can even deflect a fight with a partner, friend or even your child. Whatever the feeling, “You can’t stop the wave but you can learn to surf.” -Jon Kabat-Zinn
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